The Four Agreements

Rules are not necessarily sacred, principles are.

I first came across this book when it was mentioned in a speech given by John Paul DeJoria at Stanford – you can watch it here.

The book, written by Don Miguel Ruiz is a concise guide for a life well lived – and a framework to consider using in your own life.

I keep these printed out as a bookmark in my pocket diary (yes I’m old fashioned with a pocket diary..) but every time I need to make an entry or check something I take a moment to glance at one or all of them and it helps keep me focussed if things perhaps aren’t going my way.

In particular not taking things personally resonates with me.

So what are the four agreements?

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”.

If you’d like to learn more you can buy the book here.