How to Cut Yourself Some S.L.A.C.K.

S.L.A.C.K in this case is an acrostic which stands for:


Set reasonable resolutions. You wouldn’t expect to run a marathon in a day when you’ve never trained, so don’t set marathon-style resolutions. Start small, be realistic, and choose goals that are truly meaningful to you. There’s no reason to sign up for yoga classes if you don’t really love yoga (unless you just want an excuse to wear the pants, which is totally legit).

Let go of perfection. No matter how reasonable your plan may be, reality can be pretty darn bumpy, so chances are that you’re going to bail off the back of that wagon at some point. When that happens, Little Miss Perfect is going to start chattering away in your brain. Do not, I repeat, do not, get sucked into her nonsense. Thank her for her unhelpful opinion (or tell her to go away, whichever you prefer), and continue to remind yourself that you’re not aiming for an A+.

Accept that this is where you are now. It’s so easy to get hung up on a rough week or a broken streak. Unfortunately, such pity parties rarely end well, and I’m guessing that inhaling another pint of Ben & Jerry’s on your couch isn’t on your list of resolutions. Rather than freaking out or berating yourself for your misstep, take some deep breaths, remember your mantra (Perfection can suck it!) and get ready for a hefty dose of kindness.

Compassion is your power play here. If self-kindness doesn’t come easily to you, that’s OK. You’ll get better at it, and the universe will give you lots of opportunities to practice. Until then, imagine how you might treat a good friend going through a hard time. You wouldn’t tell her she sucks and she’ll never get her shit together, so she might as well grab a spoon and head for the freezer—so don’t do that to yourself either. Treat yourself with kindness, forgiveness, and a whole lotta humor. Not only will it feel better, but it will make it much easier to get back on track.

Kick some a**! Remember that you kicking a** and stalling out are not mutually exclusive, and that cutting yourself some slack will make achieving your resolutions easier and more fun. Self-compassion is fundamentally empowering and energizing, so use the momentum of kindness to keep your resolve. Make a plan for moving forward—just make sure that plan involves cutting yourself some slack!

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